5 Things Guys Really Wish Girls Would Do On Dating Apps (As Told By A Guy)

February 21, 2018

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There are a few back-to-basics things guys wished girls would do on dating apps.  Here they are...

1. Your profile pic shouldn't be a group photo.
Look, we can figure out who it is — we're not lazy. But having an overabundance of group pictures make us wonder if we're going to date your whole clique — daunting — or if you're especially uneasy about your looks. Or, frankly, you're too lazy to have decent pictures of yourself.

That said, maybe leave in one team pic to show you're not some lone wolf incapable of making friends or that you have social hobbies.

You're not signing a legally-binding contract. However, it's really, really nice to know upfront if you're looking for some fun or a future — or even, "let's see where it goes!" It makes any approach more pleasant if we both want the same thing.

You don't have to be graphic about it if you're looking for something physical and short-term, and you don't have to be a John Wayne film-esque schoolmarm if you're looking for something long-term and companion-oriented. Literally, if you just want to find cool friends, put that.  

3. Don't creep on all of our social networks.
It's weird seeing you in multiple online places on all the apps or social networks. I'm not suggesting that it's wrong to be on a few apps, but it is sometimes like seeing your elementary school language arts teacher at the mall — kinda "how do I know you? are you on TV?" freaky. However, if we have friends in common, feel free to discreetly vet us. Badoo has an intuitive feature to see how close your social circles are to one another and you can let your investigation commence on the low. 

4. If you're not into it, just ghost us.
There is not a good one-size-fits-all solution for people not freaking out about rejection. It is the very definition of personal. You don't want to date us or see us naked because you don't like our person. However, we don't need an after-action report telling us why this isn't going to work. And the guys who claim they do mostly just want to see you squirm. 

5. Be assertive.
For some guys, a lady reaching out makes us feel really special. And for other guys, it feels like you’re millenia of romantic norms which, to further subdivide men, is either mildly uncomfortable or wildly attractive. Being assertive in this regard can be very empowering and may start a relationship on the kind of even keel that leads to fantastic mutual respect (and orgasms). Or may lead to some numbnuts thinking you're thirsty and proving he’s not worth your time.